Keeping love alive under the pressures of life… by Pamela Aares

The_Heart_of_the_Game_LARGE_EBOOKHi everyone. Please welcome Pamela Aares to my blog today. Pamela is giving away a signed print copy of her soon to be released The Heart of the Game (US only), so be sure and leave her a comment to be eligible to win.

The recent and very sad stories about athletes in clearly unhealthy and dysfunctional relationships spotlight a very real aspect of living and loving in a high-pressure life career.  And yet there are many couples in the sports world that have healthy and loving relationships.

As some of you may know, I am married to a Major League All-Star. And the heroes in the first six books of my contemporary series, The Tavonesi Series, are professional baseball players. Both in life and in fiction the trials of playing professional sports can challenge relationships. How couples meet these challenges can take them to a deeper level of love of drive them apart. I’m always pulling for the deeper level of love!

Baseball presents a particularly tough road for couples in the game to navigate. With a husband playing 160 games every year (or more if the team makes it to the playoffs or the World Series), and with half of those games on the road, practices that keep the loving relationship thriving and alive are critical.

I came across this list, Ten Habits of Happy Couples, and wanted to share them. Even if your hubby isn’t a professional athlete, these practices offer some guidelines for keeping love alive. (I don’t have the reference, wish I did– all I have is a crumpled paper that’s on our fridge).

Love_Bats_Last_Cover_EBOOK_LARGE I’d love to hear from you if you have practices that work for you that might not be on this list!

Ten Habits of Happy Couples

Cultivate common interests.

  1. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.
  2. Focus more on what your partner does right than what s/he does wrong.
  3. Walk hand in hand or side by side.
  4. Hug each other when you say hello.
  5. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.
  6. Do a “weather check” during the day.
  7. Be proud to be seen with your partner.
  8. Say “Good night” every night regardless of how you feel.
  9. Go to bed at the same time.

(That last one is nearly impossible for us… I write late into the nights and my husband keeps farm hours these days!)

pwb_twitter_photo I look forward to hearing your tips for keeping love alive! I love hearing from readers! You can be in touch via my website:

Since it’s nearly baseball season, I am keeping Love Bats Last, Book #1 in my Tavonesi Series FREE.

2 thoughts on “Keeping love alive under the pressures of life… by Pamela Aares

  1. well I agree that a marriage is complicated but if nurtured can be the greatest thing in life and all of the 10 habits of a happy couple would be easy, although 10 is almost impossible for my spouse and I anymore, as I married a driver in the towing industry, some nights he gets calls before bedtime, others just as we get to bed and others he’s gone all night. But he always keeps me in his thoughts by calling or texting me to keep me informed to were he is and that he is safely doing his job. Safety is my greatest fear when he’s out on the road.

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